[Genealogy] Undocumented Chaos, Trips, and More
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Undocumented Chaos
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There’s still quite a bit of truth to this…
from the *Ancestry Daily News* Michael John Neill – 10/16/2002
As genealogists looking to the past, we are forced to focus on paper
records left behind by our forebears. We also use historical records and
information about larger historical movements and cultural trends to
reasonably infer things about our ancestor’s lives. For many of us, there
are times when neither of these sources or approaches is particularly
helpful. Sometimes things just do not make any logical sense. There are
times when our confusion stems from a misconception or ignorance we have
about records, history, or cultural practices. But there are times when
we’ve tried to learn as much as we can about the situation and perhaps have
asked others more knowledgeable about the area to help us out. At times
even the experts are stumped.
And so I occasionally wonder: Did some event in my ancestor’s life throw
the entire family into chaos?
Some of these events may be easily documented. There generally are records
of epidemics, natural disasters, or the closing of a major employer (the
main exception being when these first two events took place on the
extremely raw frontier). The impact may have been very direct and very
immediate. County historical societies, newspapers, county histories, or
other sources may provide at least some information on an outside event in
our ancestor’s life. The loss of employment by the father, the death of
three family members due to an epidemic, or a massive flood might have
easily thrown a family into turmoil. The more difficult situation is where
the causal event left no record.
The connection may not always be easy to make.
*Maybe . . .*
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- A marriage was hastened in an attempt to avoid the draft?
- An emigration took place to avoid compulsory military service?
- A sudden move took place because the father lost a job?
- A move took place because of a significant economic opportunity?
- A child left home because of a difficult step-parent?
- A son left for California to pan for gold?In these cases the causes
are partially discernable. Rash generalizations should not be made. When
the outside factor is something large and something relatively well known
it is easier to logically connect it to events that took place within the
family. It is important though not to grasp at straws and create
convoluted
soap operas to fit scant ancestral records.
*Where’s The P?*
In logic classes, students study implication, cause, and effect. If p
happens then q happens as a result. The problem in some family history
situations is that we have the q, but have no idea what the p was that
preceded it.
There are many explanations for the p above, but we’ll focus now on events
within the family that might have caused other family members to react.
They might have responded in ways that do not always make sense when
analyzed two hundred years later without the perspective of living within
the actual family itself as it endures the turmoil.
*Did Some Event Throw Your Ancestor’s Life Into Chaos?*
Did one parent die at a young age? The death of the father (typically the
breadwinner) might have been a major challenge for the family. The death of
the mother (typically the housekeeper and minder of the children) would
have been equally difficult, especially if the older children were not of
an age to take care of the younger ones. If your ancestral family was
living in an area outside their kin network, the death of one young parent
might have hit them especially hard.
*Hubby Dead . . . Mouths To Feed*
One ancestor died in the 1850s while in his early thirties. His widow
Barbara was left with two small children in a town several hundred miles
from where they had married and had family. As a German immigrant, Barbara
likely spoke little English and had few marketable skills. The small river
town where she lived offered few employment opportunities. Her options were
extremely limited, she did not have some of the options her
great-great-great-grandchildren may have today. Within six months of her
husband’s death she married a man who left her two months later. The
records only point towards the recorded facts, they provide little idea of
the likely situation in Barbara’s home. And while we cannot find a
tombstone, the breadwinner of her family was buried in the local cemetery
and she was left with two young children to care for. She did the only
thing she could: she ran her husband’s tavern for several years until she
married for the third time. And from newspaper records, that tavern was
quite a place.
I had another ancestor die and leave a widow with children in Kentucky in
1814. The children were old enough to help out and the husband left the
wife with a few hundred acres of property. Records are scant, but it
appears this forty-something widow was not in quite the same situation as
my German immigrant in the 1850s. Still, the road after her husband’s death
was likely not easy.
In some cases, children may have scattered after the father’s death as a
necessity. Some may have gone to live with other family members or even
strangers. Some may have been apprenticed to learn a marketable skill,
potentially leaving records. These apprenticeship records (if available)
are typically found at the county level. In some cases, there may be
records of guardianships as well. But if the family was particularly poor,
records of guardianships may be non-existent.
*Wife Dead . . . Mouths To Feed*
A young widower with small children was in a similar situation,
especiallyif there were no nearby family members to provide childcare.
Widowers who had older female children may have enlisted them to help care
for younger siblings. One of my own ancestors married three times, wives
one and two likely dying in childbirth and leaving behind several small
children. This ancestor waited a year, at most, to remarry.
My own great-great-grandmother “disappears” ca. 1882 and her two young
daughters live with other families for several years, apparently while the
father gets things “together.” I am not exactly certain what happened in
this family. All I know is that the mother “left” (or so I’ve been told)
and was never heard from again.
*Unknown Chaos?*
Some of the cases already discussed leave records that hint at the
problems. Some situations can reasonably be explained by other historical
records. Not all chaotic situations leave behind records delineating the
problem. And the records that do document the results rarely focus on the
past. There may be no record indicating a family member was mentally
unstable or had an alcohol problem. Yet these situations may have impacted
the family significantly, perhaps for generations.
The family of the sibling of one of my great-great-grandparents had
particular difficulties. The mother apparently became mentally unstable in
the 1880s while the children were young. She died a few years later. The
father never remarried and knew two things: “how to acquire land and drink
whiskey.” A doctor who visited the family at about the same time said he
never knew a family who lived in such squalor. One of the children was
classified as “simple” and intentionally injured himself on at least one
occasion. It is not difficult to see how the family lost contact with other
family members, particularly the mother’s family. Nor is it difficult to see
why some family members show little interest in their family’s past.
This family’s home life is partially documented only because upon the
father’s death there was legal trouble and court records provide a scant
paragraph on the family’s past. Had there been no money worth going to
court about, this family’s lifestyle would not have been documented.
Was there chaos in your ancestor’s life? There might have been, but the
problem will be in proving it. The real problem is that the chaos
frequently creates records that make no sense without a rough knowledge of
the underlying issues.
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