If that relative won’t talk about the past, ask them to share any old recipes they have. They may find talking about food less “intense” than answering family history questions and be more opening to sharing. A discussion of recipes or food in your family’s past may cause them to reveal some details they were initially reluctant to. Sometimes talking about food can get people’s memories stirring–increasing the chance they remember things they might not otherwise have.
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