We all have family skeletons and sometimes what we may think of as a minor indiscretion a relative may see as a major tragedy. Before you push too hard with questions or publicize a past incident too much, consider what sort of a response you might get from other family members.
Some stories (particularly if you were personally involved in the event) may need to see the light of day, if only for our own healing and mental well-being. But if it happened in 1880 and could jeopardize your relationship with living family members, think twice.
The decision is still yours, but just remember that one has to live with the living.
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Very good advice. While we wish to be accurate in our research, there is no need to publicize something that will hurt other family members.